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If you are a parent or you have a significant other whom you think may have a substance abuse problem, or if you think there is no problem - take just a moment and read this self-help guide for enablers.
The first step is to determine if you have a problem with enabling a loved one who is careening down the road of addiction. The most tell-tell sign that you have a problem is that you will not want to read further. Please keep reading and do your best to answer honestly.
* Have you ever avoided talking about the problem because it makes your loved one mad?
* Have you ever found what you thought was drug paraphernalia in you house and just threw it away and pretended like you didn’t know what it was?
* Have you ever threatened the police with a lawsuit for arresting a loved one for drug or alcohol issues?
* Have you ever suspected that your loved one was high and been too afraid to confront them?
* Have you ever threatened a Doctor with a lawsuit because he refused to prescribe your loved one pain medication?
* Do you keep track of all of your loved ones court dates and fine payments for them?
* Do you lie for your loved one when they fail to comply with court orders and or treatment recommendations?
* Do you lie for your loved one when they have a dirty drug test?
* When people notice peculiar behavior about your loved one do you make excuses?
* Do you cave into manipulation because it is easier to believe the lie?
* Do you buy varieties of alcohol so your loved one will drink at home?
* Have you ever told your loved one that it was not their fault?
* Have you ever blamed legal problems on over zealous police?
* Have you ever smelt marijuana smoke on your teen and believed them when they said that they were just with some one who smoked it?
* Have you ever called your loved ones work and lied because they were too hung over to come in?
* Have you ever justified your loved ones actions saying, “Everyone experiments when they are young.”
* Do you ever watch programs with drug related content and feel worm and fuzzy inside when they minimize and joke about drug use?
* Do you ever drive your loved one to their heroine dealer because they are sick?
* Do you hide excessive alcohol containers from friends and family?
* Do you apologize to your loved one when they suffer consequences from their addiction?
* Have you ever read an obituary of a youth and the parents wrote that they died of sleep apnea, but you know better because the deceased is a friend of your loved ones and you know they died of an overdose? If so read it carefully chances are you will be writing the next one.
Security from any fraud and unscrupulous activities should be a serious concern for anyone who is into sales, lease, jobs, or any kind of services that entail certain provisionary agreement and settlement.
Whether a party is a first time or an expert person, the industry and the services that go with it presents the concerned person with risks and challenges that you cannot underestimate. Every time that a person is engaged in a commercial transaction in the society, he or she is in danger of submitting their selves to probabilities of fraudulent activities.
That is why contracts were made to ensure the security of both parties involved.
Generally, contracts are created to provide solid information about the agreement that transpired between two or more parties and that any details stated therein are bounded by certain laws and regulations. Hence, it is extremely important for a person to know the important details of the contract before he or she signs and submits to the pact.
Here is a list of some of the things people should know before they sign a contract. Knowing these will surely protect them from any discrepancies or any fraudulent activities that may happen.
1. Be aware that a contract is a legal document, bound by legal provisions and stipulations.
As defined, it is a “legally binding,” printed arrangement signed by two or more factions or groups, which entails their commitment to each other.
With the term legal, this means that any provisions stated therein are bounded by law, in which, any act, made by a particular party or all of the parties concerned, that constitutes as non-conformity to the details of the agreement will be held liable with the law.
This means that anybody could be imprisoned or held in custody with the law unless other wise the concerned party is proven not guilty.
Hence, it is important to be meticulous about the details of the contract before signing it to avoid any potential risk.
2. Make sure that you are dealing with trustworthy and reliable companies
It is extremely important to know first who the concerned person is dealing with. Therefore, it would be better if an individual or a party would try to do some investigations and background checks first before they sign the contract.
If in the event that a person or a party is in doubt, it is best to follow their instincts and forego the signing of the contract.
3. Know the fine print
The problem with most people is that they assume every detail as part and partial of the whole agreement, thinking that everything will be stated as agreed verbally, and that there will be no harm if they will not read thoroughly the fine print.
This should not be the case; otherwise, they can get into trouble with the parties involved or with the law.
People should bear in mind, that the law fully assumes that any person or entity that has agreed to sign in a contract has fully understand the details stipulated therein. Hence, there is no excuse for any party who claims that they had missed certain details in the contract.
4. Make sure that all of the details about the contract are fully stated.
This means that all information pertinent to the agreement should be stipulated clearly and completely. For example, for service contracts, be sure that the beginning date and ending date of the service is clearly stated.
5. Make certain that there are no blank spaces in the contract
Before signing a contract, concerned parties should try to inspect the document meticulously and ensure that there are no blank spaces present. This may pose greater risks if left unattended, especially if their signatures are already affixed on the contract.
All of these things are boiled down to the fact that people should be very careful about transactions, deals, or agreements that they commit to. It is relatively important to be aware and knowledgeable of the details of the contract before signing it.
You may have heard that ignorance of the law is not an excuse. This is true, therefore, it is better to be fully aware of it than to be in trouble with the law in the end.
If you’re considering a gift of jewelry for someone special or as a treat for yourself, take some time to learn the terms used in the industry.
1. Gold Gold means all gold or 24 karat (24K) gold. Because 24K gold is soft, it’s usually mixed with other metals to increase its durability and hardness. If a piece of jewelry is not 24 karat gold, the karat quality should accompany any claim that the item is gold.
2. Platinum, Silver and Other Metals Platinum is a precious metal that costs more than gold. It is usually mixed with other similar metals: iridium, palladium, ruthenium, rhodium and osmium. Different markings are used on platinum jewelry as compared with gold jewelry. These quality markings are based on the amount of pure platinum in the piece - based on parts per thousand.
3. Gemstones Natural gemstones are found in nature. Laboratory-created stones are made in a laboratory. These stones have essentially the same chemical, physical and visual properties as natural gemstones. Laboratory-created stones do not have the rarity of naturally colored stones and they are less expensive than naturally mined stones. By contrast, imitation stones look like natural stones in appearance only, and may be glass, plastic, or less costly stones. Gemstones may be measured by weight, size, or both. The basic unit for weighing gemstones is the carat.
4. Diamonds A diamond’s value is based on four criteria: color, cut, clarity, and carat. The clarity and color of a diamond usually are graded. However, scales are not uniform: a clarity grade of “slightly included” may represent a different grade on one grading system versus another, depending on the terms used in the scale. Make sure you know how a particular scale and grade represent the color or clarity of the diamond you’re considering. A diamond is described as “flawless” if it has no visible surface or internal imperfections when viewed under 10-power magnification by a skilled diamond grader. Diamond weight is usually stated in carats.
5. Pearls Natural or real pearls are made by oysters and other mollusks. Cultured pearls also are grown by mollusks, but with human intervention. Because natural pearls are very rare, most pearls used in jewelry are either cultured or imitation pearls. Imitation pearls are man-made with glass, plastic, or organic materials. Cultured pearls, because they are made by oysters or mollusks, usually are more expensive than imitation pearls. A cultured pearl’s value is largely based on its size, usually stated in millimeters, and the quality of its nacre coating, which gives it luster. Jewelers will usually tell you if the pearls are cultured or imitation.
To get the best deal on a piece of jewelry for yourself or someone you love, shop around. You should compare quality, price, and service. If you’re not familiar with any jewelers in your area, ask family members, friends, and co-workers for recommendations.
Always check for the appropriate markings on metal jewelry and find out if the pearls are natural, cultured, laboratory-created or imitation. Also, Find out whether the gemstone has been treated. Is the change permanent? Is special care required?
Shop with companies you know or do some homework before buying to make sure a company is legitimate before doing business with it. Get the details about the product, as well as the merchant’s refund and return policies, before you buy. Look around the website for an address to write to or a phone number to call if you have a question, a problem or need help.
Life at work can be fun, serious, harried, confusing, and rewarding. Sometimes it happens all in the same day. In a world where the only thing constant is change, here are 10 things to learn, not only to survive, but to thrive!
1. Don’t expect anything - like someone to always tell you what to do Have you ever sat and waited on others for direction. (They should be telling me what to do right?) If someone wanted to tell you what to do, trust me, they would have done it already. Be confident and move forward.
2. If someone else is making a decision, let them own it Wishing you had the authority to decide something on another’s plate won’t change their decision. It also doesn’t do them any favours if you are trying to hold on to whatever they need to do. Allow them to do what they believe is right.
3. Fix what you can, don’t sweat what you can’t If you have the ability to make something better at work, to clear up a misunderstanding, make a decision, or recommend a better process, then do it. If you don’t have the ability to change it, simply let it be.
4. Everyone wants to do a good job Really! People don’t set out to get it wrong, or miss the mark. They act on what they know, and what they actually heard of the directions.
5. Let your head drive business, and your heart guide your head Use your brains, it is what got you to the job you are in, but always pay attention to your gut, if something doesn’t feel right, it is worth digging into, and if it feels good, go with it!
6. A lot of it is point of view You may work hard producing something that only gets 5 minutes airtime at the meeting, but without that piece of information, the meeting may have revolved for hours around the lack of that knowledge. A certain piece of information means something different to different people in different areas of the organization, and most certainly to different levels of management.
7. Effective direction conveys the intent and allows the other to develop the content Paint a clear picture of the desired result, the best end state (including anything you don’t want along the way), then give freedom and space which allows others to use their knowledge, skills and creativity to build something beyond your imagination. Of course, if you know exactly what you want, and how you want it done, then just say that. There is a time and a place for each.
8. Don’t just react, write the e-mail, walk away, then re-write it a couple of times without the negative emotion Peel it back to facts and data, don’t assume, and clarify information. Perpetuating negative emotions can make them grow exponentially. Make it your standard to always drop the bad feelings, and get on with business.
9. A leader stands in their own space and allows other to do the same Leaders understand their own ability to influence any situation they come into contact with, and they accept that responsibility. They respect all others, acknowledging that we all have purpose in being here, and that no one of us is greater than another.
10. Don’t take work or yourself too seriously There will be times when things go wrong, when work piles up or needs to be re-done, and stuff happens. So why not enjoy it anyways?
What do I mean I want rock? I must be showing my age, it was a heavy mental band from the eighties, Twisted Sister. Does this mean I think we all should bang are heads? I don’t think so. Now if we aren’t to bang our heads what are we supposed to do?
Have you ever said to yourself, if I knew now what I didn’t know then, I would go back in a heartbeat? I believe that most people in there thirties would normally say this, let’s take a closer look at this statement. Would you really go back in life if you were to be sixteen again?
I mean all the new drugs, ecstasy and the like, cigarette companies trying to get you hooked by going after the 14 to 16 year olds, because if they can they know that they have a sucker for life. Now I bet you are saying to yourself they say not to smoke now, then why I asked do you see all the magazine ads look so cool and how you look great with a cigarette in your hand.
Same with chew, dip, rub, snuff, well all know the baseball players do it and none of them are dying. Wrong answer there is plenty of baseball players to old to play anymore but they are only thirty-eight or thirty-nine. Far from over the hill, that come down with mouth cancer, we never here of those sad, sad stories of how half there jaw was removed, yet every kid wants to be like the big boys so they give it a try and then they get hooked and it is all over but the crying, so it gets passed down to another generation. So now, we look at peer pressure and the fact that every song on the radio is about sex, sex, sex so now you have to worry about being sexually active at a young age.
Of course, you want more than your parents had, and this makes you an unruly kid, and you want it now! Let’s not leave out the fact that they are not letting kids be kids anymore, I mean they shove school work down their throats at such a young age, they barely get to bang their knee.
Now let’s not forget about alcohol and how dangerous it is becoming to drink. Now people will call them social drinking, well let me tell you, what I know about social drinking, it doesn’t exist because when people start to get a buzz, this is when it is hard to stop, because you feel so good, so you decide at the tender age of 17 you are going to get drunk at this weekends party.
You get drunk and have unsafe sex, opps I may not be pregnant but the Doctor says I have aides, do you really think there is still social drinking? You and I both know that you would have never slept with him or her and to top it all off, your boyfriend didn’t know you cheated on him and you have sex with him infecting him with HIV and now you are pregnant!
Now you have slain your first-born child who has aids because you thought it would be ok to have a “SOCIAL DRINK”. Now do you see all the pressure of the younger generation and what they must face today? Would you really want to go back after all that we have seen, or would you stay in your easy chair and try and raise your children to the best of your ability?
I mean does it really sound that appealing to you, as I take a closer look at the situation, I see pain and lots of it and all I can think is the fact that I DON’T WANT ROCK and as far as that goes, let the eighties end, it was a sexual revelation that needs to put to rest, that we can teach our kids, what we did wrong and why they should try and learn from our mistakes. I don’t want to rock!
I prefer Barry Manilows Even Now! It kind of goes like this, even I wake up crying in the middle of the night wondering where you are and what I’ve done, even now, even now I wake up crying asking myself were you are and what I have done wrong, even now that we have come so far, I wondering what where you are and what you’d do if you knew,
that even know I wake up crying in the middle of the night wondering were you are and what you’d do if you knew, I still cared! Therefore, I say once again, I don’t want to go back and I don’t want to rock anymore, because even now I wake up crying!
Older people sometimes develop dementia, a somewhat common condition that results in mental and emotional confusion. Some of these people, often those who are institutionalized, display anger outbursts due to relatively mild provocations, such as an unwanted meal item. At other times the anger is warranted, as when another resident initiates a conflict. For reasons like these and others, anger management therapy for dementia patients is becoming increasingly important.
Symptoms That May Warrant Anger Management Therapy
It may be difficult to determine at first who is eligible for anger management therapy. Residents with dementia who live at home or in nursing facilities often try to express themselves in non-traditional ways. While someone who wants their breakfast oatmeal served hotter can just say so, someone with dementia might be able to just make anxious sounds, pace, or even throw the oatmeal on the floor. If someone in your care exhibits dissatisfaction with some aspect of daily care, try to figure out what is bothering the person, and make any needed adjustments that you can.
Dementia patients may raise their voice, swing their arms, push, shove, or yank at things or people to convey their irritation. Caregivers must learn to decipher true anger from confusion or self-defense against other aggressive residents. Anger management therapy should be considered for those who express real anger inappropriately.
Some dementia residents may withdraw socially, stop talking to others, or gesticulate excitedly when they are upset. Sometimes these actions are in response to legitimate concerns, while at other times they may reflect unsuitable anger that needs to be redirected. If the person is able to understand and respond to caregivers in appropriate ways, he or she may be eligible for anger management therapy.
Anger Management Therapy for Dementia Patients
Any anger management therapy facilitator or coordinator who works with dementia residents will need to understand the way that those with dementia communicate, and the types of triggers that can draw their anger. This may require some training in long-term facility care, gerontology, and dementia behaviours. The therapist may attempt group or individual therapy, depending on the patient’s needs and abilities.
In anger management therapy, the coordinator may try to make the resident understand the consequences of anger outbursts, or attempt to teach the resident how to redirect anger in acceptable ways. At times, the therapist might want to work with the resident’s physician, social worker, and family to achieve the best results. This type of effort could take a long time and may be only partially successful yet, any progress is undoubtedly helpful.
Family members and caregivers who want to know more can visit websites like anger-management-information.com for more complete information on how to address this key social and interpersonal behavior. They also can get in touch with the doctor, nursing staff, and social worker for help in assisting a dementia patient through anger management therapy that may lead to improved outcomes for the resident and those that provide his or her care and support.
The smoked mussels in this recipe make for a mouth-watering cream sauce that sets off and complements the chicken perfectly. And using the juices from the smoked mussels tin to brown the chicken brings out the flavours even more!
| Imperial | Metric | Ingredient |
|---|---|---|
| 1 can | 85 g | CLOVER LEAF SMOKED MUSSELS, drained |
| 8 | skinless, boneless chicken breasts | |
| 3/4 tsp | 4 mL | salt, divided |
| 1/2 tsp | 2 mL | ground black pepper |
| 3 tbsp | 45 mL | butter |
| 1 | small onion, finely chopped | |
| 1 tbsp | 15 mL | finely chopped fresh thyme |
| 1/4 tsp | 1 mL | ground white pepper |
| 2 cups | 500 mL | coarsely chopped stemmed mushrooms |
| 1 1/4 cups | 310 mL | low-sodium chicken broth |
| 1 1/4 cups | 310 mL | white wine (or additional chicken broth) |
| 1 cup | 250 mL | whipping cream |
| steamed spinach |
| Amount | Nutrition |
|---|
Drain the juices from the can of mussels into a large, nonstick skillet set over medium-high heat. Set mussels aside. Sprinkle the chicken with 1/2 tsp (2 mL) of the salt and black pepper; add to the pan, in batches if necessary. Brown the chicken on both sides. Transfer the chicken to a baking sheet; bake in the oven for 20 minutes or until cooked through.
Meanwhile, reduce the heat under the skillet to medium. Add the butter, onion, thyme, remaining salt and white pepper. Cook, stirring often, for 5 minutes. Increase the heat to high and add the mushrooms; saut© for 2 minutes or until golden. Stir in the broth and white wine; bring to a boil and cook for about 10 to 12 minutes or until liquid is reduced to about 1 cup (250 mL).
Stir the cream into the reduced wine mixture in skillet and bring to a boil. Cook for 7 to 8 minutes or until reduced and thickened. Stir in the reserved mussels. Arrange the chicken on a bed of steamed spinach and spoon sauce over top. Makes 8 servings.
PRESENTATION TIP
For additional colour and flavourful flair, serve with saffron rice.
Conference calls are becoming popular every day. They have become an important part of any organization, they have truly revolutionized the way people conduct there business. With the advancement of technology now many users can communicate at the same time. Business conference calls have allowed you to interact with multiple employees and members at the same time. Business conference calls have not only allowed you to talk but also view them by using video conferencing.
This allows you to be at any place at any time and talk and see the other person who is sitting somewhere else. This feature has allowed you to remain in contact with your clients, associates and other leads despite the distance. Your clients can be from another country and you somewhere else, with the option of business conference you can keep yourself up to date with the changes that occur in your organization. You will always be in touch with your business; this has allowed managers and owners to remain up to date. You don’t need to worry much as you will always be informed. Business conference calls have provided business man with a huge amount of interaction and they now feel much ease with it.
Wedding is the most important occasion in any bride and grooms life and to make it a special occasion, the couples will leave no stone untouched, meaning that they will go all out to see that their wedding is a memorable and joyous occasion not only for themselves but for all those guests and well wishers attending the function to grace the couple.
The perfect way to get the praise of the guests as well as please them is to give wedding favors for those special guests who attend the wedding. The practice of giving away wedding favors dates back to a few centuries and the most common items that were given as wedding favors then were chocolates, cookies, candles and the luxury ones being the wine glasses and the key chains. Even today, giving away chocolates, candles and cookies as original wedding favors is practiced in large scale and is considered to be the classic type of wedding favors by many couples that can be given to the invited guests.
One should not go broke because they invested in pricy wedding favors, you should remember that most favors are simple and nice, just something to show your guests you thought of them.